It is important that you become familiar with these signs that are listed below if you suspect that your partner is cheating. Initially people are often not in tuned to their partner's behaviors but once you suspect something is taking place between your partner and someone else it is often easy to pick up on things that you should have been concerned about. Initially there is very little to be concerned about because you had full trust of your partner. Once your suspicions become aware and activated many of these signs begin to jump out at you roaring like a tornado siren after a sighting of a funnel cloud.You sense something is wrong in the relationship and suspect cheating.
You begin to catch them in lies
Wanting to be social with others without you
Partner returns from work and needs to take an immediate shower
Friends, coworkers, and family of spouse/partner seem uncomfortable around you
Your partner is very concerned about your whereabouts, where you will be, and for how long
Car seat in unusual position
Forgetting or not wearing wedding bands
Very concerned about their privacy suddenly
Encouraging you to take a vacation or visit out of town relatives
Partner accidently calls you by another name
Defensive when questioned about their day or where they have been
Unusual behaviors and mood swings that do not make any sense
You notice someone's name becoming more frequently dropped than in the past, both positively and negatively.
New change in music, art, and suddenly finds a hobby that did not interest them before
You feel as if your partner is avoiding you
Partner discusses hypothetical questions that involve separation, break ups, or divorce.
Partner is overly sensitive towards your criticism, comments, and opinions
You learn you have an STD and you have been monogamous to the relationship
Your friends inquire about your partner's faithfulness
Secretive about bills such as credit cards, phone bills, or other miscellaneous bills
Increase in the use of computer, cell phones, texting, etc. especially when you go to bed or are out of the room
Partner ends phone calls, closes internet browsers, is seen/heard whispering into the phone or does not pay attention to text messages when you enter the room
Secretive talking on the phone or goes into another room to take a call
Unusual habits on the computer or cell phone such as deleting e-mails/text messages daily
You are receiving hang up calls to your home
Text messages or phone messages from unknown numbers
Partner seems uncomfortable being close to you or a forced expectation
Partner has scratches, bruises, and marks on body with poor explanations for how they got there
Starts buying you gifts and become more attentive towards you
New lingerie that you have never seen
They suddenly need "space" or like being alone
Unusual or new sex habits or less sex in relationship
Wanting to read or learn how to be better in bed
Spouse/partner stops confiding in you
Suddenly you are being accused of cheating for no reason
Find intimate clothing, lingerie, or sexy gifts that do not belong to you
Emotional connection between you and partner been dwindling or rapidly decreasing
Partner develops a sudden change in personality traits
Partner rarely tells you they love you anymore
Partner has an overnight kit of clothes, toothbrush, and personal items in their car
You find different colored hairs than your own in clothes, car, home, etc.
A spouse that usually did not want to assist in the laundry suddenly wanting to complete their own laundry
Evidence left on clothes such as hair, lipstick, bodily fluids, perfumes, colognes, etc.
Positive comments, feedback, and compliments have ceased in your relationship
Partner begins to be concerned about their appearance. Often joins a gym, begins working out, or buys new clothes.
Partner feels guilty, bad, or ashamed when you do something nice for them
Cancelling of scheduled evening plans for the two of you are becoming routine
Fights and arguments erupt more quickly and partner begins to leave the home when frustrated
Partner begins to use new catch phrases or slang terms around the home
Leaves the home excited and returns home appearing depressed
Partner does not seem concerned with what is taking place at home
Spending less time with you and/or family
Partner does not want to do anything with you anymore, attend family events, or participate in family matters
Partner finds excuses to run errands or attempts to sneak out of the house. These errands take much longer than they should
Not feeling hungry at dinner time with family (already had dinner with someone else)
Unusual or changes in spending habits, unusual receipts from places you have never been, even financial trouble
Unusual charges to credit cards or ATM withdrawals
An increase in business trips, overtime, and required work expectations requiring them to be away more often
Regular work hours are suddenly changing
These are not automatic signs of cheating but this is just a list of common cheating signs. Use common sense when addressing cheating with a suspected cheater. A car seat in the wrong position does not equate to cheating but if you find condom wrappers while you are on the pill or had a vasectomy it is pretty clear what is happening. You can shrug a few of the signs in isolation as coincidence but if you notice several of these signs regarding your partner perhaps you need to keep a more watchful eye on your partner or take other necessary steps to find out for sure what is happening should you require absolute proof.
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