Signs That Your Relationship Might Be Heading Towards A Breakup

Sometimes a relationship moves along and there are indicators in a relationship that should not be overlooked. We can move on and ignore some of these signals that a relationship is in trouble or do something to address the signals that are screaming there is something definitely wrong in your relationship. If these signals are ignored often the relationship will only get worse, someone in the relationship will end the relationship or disturbed individuals will seek out their needs outside their relationship. Relationships have moments of disagreements when arguing occurs but some relationships have chronic fighting. These arguments come in the form of small bickering, bouts of anger and frustration about each other, to the same serious issues that have never been successfully addressed for years or much of the relationship. As the fissure deepens in the relationship the fighting becomes more intense and hurtful. Individuals in the relationship begin to increase the lack of respect for each other when engaged in the challenging moments of fighting. The couple begins to problem solve in erroneous ways such as name calling, engaging in immature head games and begin feeling their partner is purposely attempting to inflict damage to them and the relationship. As this negativity continues to intensify one or both partners begin displaying signs that they no longer really care about the relationship and begin removing the bond between themselves and their partner. This lack of emotional connection leads to a lack of intimacy between partners in the relationship or a reduction in the amount of intimacy experienced with each other in their relationship. Intimacy problems both emotionally and sexually lead to frustration, negativity regarding the couple's sex life and often an increase in fighting. A relationship experiencing a reduction in sexual intimacy can lead to a deterioration of emotional connectedness pointing towards one or both individuals pulling away from the relationship. As the individuals emotionally move away from each other communication becomes a larger barrier because the couple feels that the relationship is not worth the fight anymore or the fighting has taken such a negative tone that both individuals just disengage from each other. The relationship begins to feel more like roommates and appreciation for each other is diminishing or seldom expressed. The individuals in the relationship begin to feel taken for granted and unappreciated. Communication breaks down or is ignored and one or both individuals begin turning towards others for signs of appreciation. This withdrawal from the relationship can lead to emotional or physical affair developing, developing independent interests away from their partner or complete avoidance of the other partner. As this withdrawal flourishes individuals in the relationship find excuses to not be around each other, find each other boring given new hobbies and recreational activities away from their partner and begin to feel that their partner and themselves have different expectations and goals for their lives than their partner. When a defining moment in communication is attempted about the relationship, careers or personal matters it is often too late as one or both individuals in the relationship simply do not care for their partner as they should and find their partners annoying or an inconvenience. Trust in each other is a fading concept and the relationship begins to feel like a performance rather than a personal resource. As the relationship begins to completely implode, weaker individuals turn towards chemicals such as drugs or alcohol and instances of domestic abuse increase as the negative pressures of the relationship escalate. When the relationship nears its end, the negative imagery of the other partner cuts to the front of the line when the partners reflect back on the relationship and their partner. Positive memories seem fleeting and both individuals cannot recall how the relationship got to its current position. Not every relationship can or should be saved. This relationship could have had an opportunity at surviving if the couple could have communicated concerns early on in the relationship. Many couples wait too long or have difficulty communicating their needs at all in relationships. Relationship issues only deepen and grow in number with the lack of communication between individuals in the relationship. When problems are not addressed and personal needs are not communicated couples begin to slowly withdraw from their partners and before they realize it the couple is unable to find a way to bring each other closer together again. It is best for couples to communicate their needs and concerns immediately before those concerns become full blown problems in the relationship.

Photo courtesy
http://www.dreamstime.com/free-stock-image-loneliness-rimagefree2137226-resi2612978