Eliminating The Affair Partner

There comes a time in an affair where the relationship between the affair partner and the wandering partner must come to an end. Affairs are seldom long term solutions in a relationship and at some point most affairs must come to an end. It seldom makes a difference why you are discontinuing the affair breaking out of an affair relationship is difficult. Whether you wake up with a sudden conscience regarding your primary partner, your affair is discovered by your partner or you just no longer feel the affair is worth the hassle cutting loose an affair partner is an uncomfortable process. Most likely you will have generated some feelings for the affair partner and severing ties with an affair partner will probably cause emotional distress due to the loss of the relationship. When ending an affair it is best to keep things simple and honest. I have never been in favor of face to face visits with the affair partner when ending the affair. There is no reason that an affair cannot be ended by e-mail, text message, phone call, or even a letter. Keep the message short, simple and direct. You are returning to your primary partner to work on the primary relationship. Be very clear and concise that the affair is over and that the affair cannot continue ever again. Do not reminisce about the good times, state feelings regarding the affair partner or give any positive feedback that the affair partner could distort as hope for continuing the affair. Continue to echo that your decision is final to work on your primary relationship and respectfully ask that all contact from the affair partner cease from this point forward. After this message has been delivered the wandering partner must maintain a strict no contact policy with the affair partner. If any contact is received by the wandering partner from the affair partner it is to be ignored and communicated to the primary partner. There is to be no reason to contact the affair partner ever again and continuing a friendship or any other platonic relationship is completely out of the question. Any method of communication that was used to carry out the affair should be changed, deleted or cancelled if possible. This may not be enough to hinder the wishes of an affair partner and they may make your life very miserable for a while. Be prepared for an affair partner that is not ready to let go of the relationship. Be prepared for behavior from an affair partner that is immature and preposterous. If your affair has not been exposed to your primary partner the threats from an affair partner to expose the affair are possible. An impassioned affair partner may try and reconnect and continue the affair despite your best efforts to eliminate them from your life so prepare for the repercussions for trying to end the affair. Do not return to the affair partner under any circumstance. If you end up running into them be considerate, respectful, but straight to point. There is no reason to name call, insult or get into any further trouble associated with your affair partner after you let them know the affair is over. When entering an affair there is a high probability that at least two people will get hurt before the affair is discovered or ended. Often the case is more people than just you and your affair partner will have their lives imploded by a wandering partner's decision to have an affair. The choice to have an affair is a selfish one that very few people report positive experiences from. Instead of seeking fulfillment outside of your relationship your time would be much better spent attempting to figure out what is wrong in your primary relationship and work at fixing those problems productively instead of guzzling someone else from outside of your relationship into your path of personal destruction. Learn from your mistakes from this affair and fix what was missing from your primary partner. Begin learning the signs that you are straying from your primary partner or you are developing problems in your relationship so you can do something about those issues before turning to someone outside of the relationship.